How The Beijing Olympics Can Improve Your Relationship
Yes, I hear you saying, “What does the Beijing Olympics have to do with relationships?” Better yet, “How in the world can the Olympics help my relationship?”
You asked such great questions. And I am glad you asked!!
As I watched the Beijing Olympics Opening Ceremony, I saw something that was truly an amazing demonstration of commitment and teamwork. I think we can agree these are two key ingredients necessary in order to develop and maintain of a good relationship?
So, what did I see during the opening ceremony of the Beijing Olympics that was so spectacular?
It was the performance of the 2008 drummers who played an ancient Chinese percussion instrument called a Fou. The Fou instruments would light up as the drummers beat on them.
The amazing aspect of their performance was not that the Fou would light up, but the exact precision by which they unified their efforts, to perform a countdown to the start of the Olympics and to spell out a special welcome message to the guests in the audience and the millions of viewers throughout the world. Their performance was so amazing that I thought the performance was a computer generated laser light show, until I saw that it was done my human effort. WOW!!
Later as I reflected on this performance, I thought about the sacrifice and commitment each member of this team had to make to the overall performance of the team. Each drummer had to submit their individual wills to the collective goal and will of the team; which was to perform well as a team.
Just think what would have happened if any one member of the team would have said, “I do not like my role in this routine, I want to play my Fou more often than what has been assigned to me.” Sounds familiar?
If that would have happened, the performance of the whole 2008 member team would have been destroyed, all because one person wanted to be a “star”.
You are probably saying by now, “How does this relate to my relationships?”
How often do dating relationships and marriages end, because someone wants their individual way more than they want what is best for them as a couple? They decide my personal well-being is more important than the well-being of our relationship as a couple. Now, I am not suggesting staying in an abusive or unhealthy relationship; that is a different topic for another article.
Just think what could be accomplished through our relationships, if we made the sacrifice and commitment knowing that we can do much more together than individually. Just think about the impact we could have on our children and those around us when we work together, instead of engaging in a “tug-a-war” for power in the relationship.
Just like the drummers performance was truly amazing when each drummer submitted their individual wills to the collective goal and will of the team; our relationships and marriages can have the same or greater impact on those around us.
If we will submit our individuals wills and make a commitment to our dating relationship or marriage first, we are well on our way to maintaining the “rhythm” in our relationship we all desire!!
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For the ladies, Sylvia has a personal development site focused specifically on the needs and concerns of women. The site is called, www.thedashlady.com.
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Randy & Sylvia Clark
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